Today will be a little strange due to two factors; 1) my audio
quit at 50 min, and would not continue, and 2) the
book and the audio are basically identical, so I just picked a few things from
the book and added them. Here we go...
The
Video
Forgiveness is immediate, trust is earned.
Forgiveness is immediate, trust is earned.
The
Audio
Relationships are like bridges. Humility is the key to restoring almost all broken relationships. To God you are infinitely valued, but deeply flawed. Humility is loving God, and loving others as well. Quoted Matt22:37-39 (one on the list to be memorized). Satan doesn’t care WHY you don’t think about God and others - as long as you don’t.
Relationships are like bridges. Humility is the key to restoring almost all broken relationships. To God you are infinitely valued, but deeply flawed. Humility is loving God, and loving others as well. Quoted Matt22:37-39 (one on the list to be memorized). Satan doesn’t care WHY you don’t think about God and others - as long as you don’t.
Six
things to do to rebuild a relationship:
1. Ask for Gods help. God opposes the proud, but gives Grace to the humble.
2. Affirm the other person’s value.
A. Honor them. Listen to them.
B. Validate their feelings, you don’t have to agree.
3. Acknowledge your responsibility and your sin. Stop playing the "blame game." Pride leads to EVERY OTHER VICE. The more pride you have the more you are annoyed by it in others. People naturally think of themselves first. A sign of spiritual maturity is to think of God and others first.
4. Allow the other person to be human. Humility is recognizing no one is perfect. If you are easily offended, you have a pride problem.
5. Adjust to their needs. Look out for one another’s interests rather than your own.
6. Abandon your own rights. (You will need Gods help with this one). On a personal level yield your rights to God. EVERYTHING belongs to God; we just get to use it for a while.
1. Ask for Gods help. God opposes the proud, but gives Grace to the humble.
2. Affirm the other person’s value.
A. Honor them. Listen to them.
B. Validate their feelings, you don’t have to agree.
3. Acknowledge your responsibility and your sin. Stop playing the "blame game." Pride leads to EVERY OTHER VICE. The more pride you have the more you are annoyed by it in others. People naturally think of themselves first. A sign of spiritual maturity is to think of God and others first.
4. Allow the other person to be human. Humility is recognizing no one is perfect. If you are easily offended, you have a pride problem.
5. Adjust to their needs. Look out for one another’s interests rather than your own.
6. Abandon your own rights. (You will need Gods help with this one). On a personal level yield your rights to God. EVERYTHING belongs to God; we just get to use it for a while.
The
Book
Relationships are always worth restoring. Paul wrote, "...Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends." "I'll put it as urgently as I can: you MUST get along with each other." Learn to be a peacemaker. Peacemaking is NOT avoiding conflict, it is also not appeasement: always giving in, acting like a doormat, and allowing others to always run over you.
Relationships are always worth restoring. Paul wrote, "...Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends." "I'll put it as urgently as I can: you MUST get along with each other." Learn to be a peacemaker. Peacemaking is NOT avoiding conflict, it is also not appeasement: always giving in, acting like a doormat, and allowing others to always run over you.
How
to restore a relationship...
No one can meet all your needs accept God. The apostle James noted that many of our conflicts are caused by prayerlessness. "...you do not have because you do not ask God."
God expects you to make the first move. Don’t wait for the other party. Go to them first. You are only hurting yourself with your anger.
Focus on their feelings, not the facts. Don’t try to talk people out of how they feel. Just listen and let them unload, even when you don’t agree. Let’s please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good.
Admit your own mistakes. Accept responsibility for your mistakes and ask for forgiveness. Attack the problem, not the person.
HOW you say it is as important as WHAT you say. Paul said, "Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words...so that what you say will do well to those who hear you."
Paul said, "Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody." We can walk arm-in-arm without seeing eye-to-eye on every issue. Reconciliation means you bury the hatchet, not necessarily the issue.
No one can meet all your needs accept God. The apostle James noted that many of our conflicts are caused by prayerlessness. "...you do not have because you do not ask God."
God expects you to make the first move. Don’t wait for the other party. Go to them first. You are only hurting yourself with your anger.
Focus on their feelings, not the facts. Don’t try to talk people out of how they feel. Just listen and let them unload, even when you don’t agree. Let’s please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good.
Admit your own mistakes. Accept responsibility for your mistakes and ask for forgiveness. Attack the problem, not the person.
HOW you say it is as important as WHAT you say. Paul said, "Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words...so that what you say will do well to those who hear you."
Paul said, "Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody." We can walk arm-in-arm without seeing eye-to-eye on every issue. Reconciliation means you bury the hatchet, not necessarily the issue.
Debi.
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